Every man must discriminate between the voluntary acts of his mind and his involuntary perceptions, and knows that to his involuntary perceptions a perfect faith is due.
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
The question to ask yourself with any decision is this: Is your whole being on board? Are your rational mind and your intuitive mind on the same page? And how do you know if they are?
Here's how it works, your rational mind generates an idea in response to an internal question of how to solve a particular dilemma. And it usually sounds something like this: "What should I do about.....?" "Well...you could/should do this or that..."
And this process is so automatic, we don't even think about the underlying question, which is often what could I do or what should I do in response to this situation?
So unintentionally, we don't even realize that right from the start, we are asking the wrong question. The right question is..."What would I love to do about....?"
Because aligning you with what you love is the domain of intuition and automatically starts generating more delightful and high quality answers and solutions to your questions. That's part 1...ask the right question.
Part 2 is once you have asked the right question and started generating ideas/possible solutions is to then run those ideas by your intuition to see if your whole being is on board with the proposed solution from your rational mind.
Why do this, you ask? Because inevitably, it's those times when I don't listen inside to what my intuition is saying and just go with my rational mind that I end up regretting my choice or wasting my time or money unnecessarily. If at some level I knew the choice wasn't right, and didn't listen, and did it anyway, those the lessons end up being the hardest to swallow. And haven't we all had those?
We have all had those times when something was almost right, and because we really wanted it to be right, we overlooked or otherwise ignored that tiny bit of doubt that was bubbling just beneath the surface. Maybe it almost fit, the price was good, the color was right, or the timing was almost perfect, but somehow overall it just wasn't quite right. Like that puzzle piece that almost fits...but not quite.
I am proposing a way to check in with these decisions using your intuition in order to circumvent or navigate around some of these "not quite right" puzzle pieces.
That's what total congruence is about, when your whole being says yes and your rational and intuitive mind agree. Because even if it ends up being a mistake or things don't work out in the long run, I find that most folks are more OK with it when did both their due diligence rationally and took the time to listen to their wise guidance within.
Let me give you an example from my life having to do with a simple decision about which gift to give, so you can see how this works.
I was talking with a friend who was trying to decide what to get his parents for their anniversary. We talked about several options, but with every choice I could feel that his energy was kinda "meh" about it. He wasn't really thrilled with any of the choices our rational minds were coming up with. The puzzle piece didn't quite fit.
So then I had him tune into his intuition and ask for a short movie clip to help him understand what would be the best choice for him. Within about 3 minutes, he not only got his answer, his energy positively lit up. He was excited, inspired and knew exactly what to do next to get the gift process rolling. That's part 2, how you know your whole being is on board...because the solution, no matter how simple will positively light you up on all levels of your being. If you are not inspired, happy, jovial, delighted, or otherwise feeling expansive and uplifted...you have not yet found your right answer.
You see it wasn't that his rational mind wasn't coming up with good gift ideas, it just needed some support from his intuitive mind, which will not only tell you if you are on the right track, it also supplies inspired ideas, win/win solutions, positive energy, and motivation that will absolutely light you up and carry you forward with seemingly little effort. And as an added bonus, it always feels delightful to do. That's congruence!
You may be asking yourself if this check in is necessary to do in every decision making situation...and of course the answer is: only if you want more peace, empowerment, self-trust, inspired ideas, positive flow, innovative solutions and pure delight in your life.
Here is a quick step-by-step, so you can try this exercise out for yourself. Pick a situation that you would like more information about, it can be just about anything. Then:
Close your eyes and relax for about 3 minutes.
- When lightly relaxed, call the situation to mind and ask yourself: What would I love?
- Then based on your answer to that, ask yourself: How can I create this in the most delightful way possible?
- Then, ask your intuition to show you a short movie clip that helps you understand how to create this.
- Come back into the room, open your eyes, and take action on the guidance if you feel uplifted and inspired to do so.